Hot Topic...I am a Successful Black Woman!

 

Hot Topic.. email.... Hi 

Ms.Tracy, I need some 

help.  I am a 40  yr old 

successful black woman 

who is looking for an 

equally yoked black man.  

However, it seems like

they are all intimidated by 

me.  I live a somewhat 

lavish lifestyle thanks to 

my thriving private law 

practice.  For some reason 

that always seems to run men away.  I am sick of 

wasting my time getting to know these “feeble 

minded men. Why are men intimidated by 

POWERFUL WOMEN?   Where oh where are all 

the strong black men?? I am thinking about going 

to another race to find me a real man.  What do 

you think I should do?

Help Wanted.... Cheating and trust

 

Hey Trac, I have a question for you??  If a woman finds  out 

her mate cheated on her  but she chooses to stay with him 

does she have the right to demand that he use a condom with 

her?  I just found out my husband of 6 years has been 

cheating with this other woman for about a year now.  He 

came to me and told me and we have been to church 

counseling and regular counseling for the past 3 months so 

we have decided to give it one last try.  Now I agreed to get 

back together as long as he knows he has to now wear a 

condom when we have sex because I am worried about 

diseases.  I told him for the next 6 months he has to wear a 

condom and go get checked out.  once he gets the all clear 

then if me and him are still in a good place he can lose the 

condom at that point.  He said its not fair because we are 

married?  What do you think? 

The Side Chic!

 

  Lets talk about the infamous "Side Chic".   Back in the day the "side Chic' was considered the dummy.  She would wait around for the married man to leave his wife while she was giving all her goodies to a married man or a guy in a relationship and then end up dumped in brokenhearted when he choose his wife and family instead of her.   Nowadays things have truly changed.  Lately it seems that the "side chics" have been gaining power and over throwing the main chic and taking her place.  Lets talk about a few cases in where the "Side Chic" came out on top and the wife and family were left brokenhearted and destroyed. 

Case #1 Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt

  Brad Pitt was supposedly "happily" married to Jennifer Aniston for 5 years.  Reportedly all of that changed when he worked with Angelina Jolie.  In an interview in 2009 Brad Pitt said he fell in love with Angelina on the set of  Mr. and Mrs. Smith (while he was still married to Aniston).  Pitt and Aniston were divorced in 2005.  Pitt and Jolie have 6 kids and been together ever since.

Case #2  Mel Gibson and Oksana Grigorieva

  After 30 years of marriage Mel Gibson announced a divorce.  Almost immediately after announcing his divorce Gibson was scene Russian pianist Oksana Grigorieva,out in public. Within a month, he confirmed that Oksana was pregnant and they had a baby together in December.  

Case #3 Tiki Barber and Traci Lynn Johnson

  NFL Great Tiki Barber not only cheated on his wife but he left her while she was 8 months pregnant with twins for his mistress Traci Lynn Johnson.  To make things even worse he married his mistress 8 days after his divorce was final. 

Case #4  Stevie J and Joseline

  Stevie J not only cheated on his long time girlfriend and the 

mother to his child Mimi but he did it all on TV.  Stevie J 

paraded his side chic "Joseline" around on camera and in real 

life as is MIMI didn't even exist.   If you ever watched Love 

and Hip Hop Atlanta you would have thought Joseline was 

the main girl and Mimi was the side chic the way Stevie J

treated her.  Needless to say after a few season 

of ridiculousness and drama he ultimately up with the self 

proclaimed  Puerto Rican Princess Joseline.

Case #5  Peter Gunz and Amina 

  The so called famous Peter Gunz introduced us to a new 

level of disrespect when he married his "Side Chic" Amina 

(Buddafly).  Gunz who was living with his long 

time girlfriend Tara, went off and married  his "side chic" 

Amina and kept it a secret as he continued living with his 

girlfriend Tara and his two sons.  

 



  As we can see being a side chic is not a "dead end" position

 anymore.  Why do you think it is becoming more and more 

common that side chis are being promoted to main chic?   

Does it pay to be a side chic these days?  Why do so many 

women a.k.a. "main chic" give men this type of power to 

play with their hearts?  Why not walk away? Who's at fault 

the man or the side chic?